Each day, billions of us seek out healing. Healing comes in many forms. It can be in the form of a therapist, a dentist, a doctor, a chiropractor, a psychic, a medium, an energy worker, a shaman, and the list continues on. How do you know who to trust? How can you find a healer who is ethical?
My definition of ethical healer relates to someone who is in integrity, has respect for their client or patient, does not over step personal boundaries, is honest and who puts the person they are caring for first and foremost. An ethical healer has no personal agenda when it comes to those they are providing service.
When we seek healing, in whatever form that may be, we are in a vulnerable state. No one goes in to the doctor or their shrink when they’re having a good day. And no one seeks out energy work or spiritual advice unless they’re in a state of questioning or imbalance. It can be difficult to make good judgment when our minds or bodies are in chaos. So how then do we find practitioners that are in alignment with our needs?
First, ASK FOR RECOMMENDATIONS. Ask around for personal recommendations from those you trust. Next, DO SOME RESEARCH. Look online. How do you feel when you see their photo on social media, their webpage? Are there any reviews of them and what do they say? Finally, DO A GUT CHECK. Center yourself and ask – is this the right healer for me? What do you feel from that question? If at any time during this process you catch a bad vibe – move on. Look for someone else. If all feels good, reach out to that healer and make contact. Interview them by phone or in person, explaining what services you’re looking for. Notice their reactions, their energy and how they connect with you. If this feels right, then proceed and make an appointment.
Seems like a lot work, right? Trust me, this is better time spent on the forefront than trying to rectify damage caused by someone of ill intent. Remember, you are worth spending that time to find someone who has your best interests in mind.
As in all professions in existence, there are those who practice with good and with bad intentions. And if a doctor is in error, he can be reported to the state medical board and have his license revoked. If a psychiatrist puts the moves on a patient, they can be reported as well. These medical healers have rules and regulations they are sworn to follow and if they do not, they are not legally allowed to practice. But what rules do spiritual healers have to follow? What governing board holds them to a certain standard?
There is one Universal law that all spiritual healers should follow and that is, “Always respect and never impede upon a person’s free will.” What that means, is that a spiritual healer should never take advantage of their client – energetically, spiritually, physically, mentally, or emotionally. Never cause harm is another highly understood unwritten law as well, and yet there are those who profess to be “healers” who still inflict this negativity.
It’s important to understand that YOU are in the driver’s seat and in control during every healing session. If something is happening that you don’t like or trust – stop the session. That can be hard to understand if you’re just opening up to your spirituality and don’t have an awareness of what goes on during a session. So let’s talk about what happens during healing sessions for further information.
I’ve had the extreme blessing of experiencing many forms and modalities of spiritual healing: Native American, Egyptian, Brazilian, Reiki, Huna, Pleadian, Tantra, Yoga, Regression, Crystal Therapy, Soul Retrieval, Hypnosis, Time Line Therapy, NLP, Massage, Theta, Chelation, Santeria, VooDoo, Angel Therapy, Amanae, Sound Therapy and various forms of Shamanics from all over the world (its awesome to have friends and soul family from lots of different cultures). One thing is common in all of the ethical treatments I’ve received – the practitioner makes the client feel comfortable, safe and always respects their boundaries. The facilitator will check in throughout the session to make sure the client is okay and they always remind the client that if anything happens they are not comfortable with that the session will stop. This puts the client at ease. A good practitioner will explain to the client the process of what will happen during a session. If hands on healing is involved, they will ask permission before placing hands on the client. There should NEVER be any sexual touching whatsoever, unless that is the type of therapy you are seeking, and even in those instances, permission is ALWAYS asked before touch is given. Some modalities require objects to be placed on the skin for healing, and again, with those instances, the healer should ask permission and let the client know ahead of time.
If I am administering an energy work session and I sense blockages or issues in the area of the sexual organs I will place my hand in the client’s energy field well above the body to help remove the block and send healing. Energy can be transferred without touch, and again, it is most important to make the client comfortable or else they cannot receive the healing.
Your personal boundaries and safety are what is most important. If you’re laying on a treatment table and all of the sudden you feel like your safety is in jeopardy – GET UP AND LEAVE. Don’t feel bad, don’t worry about hurting the healer’s feelings. It’s never supposed to be about them anyway – your healing is about YOU. For some people this is a concept that is easily understood, but for others, especially those in extreme vulnerability, the lines are blurred. All they can think about is getting better and if you’re not used to the process of energy work or healing sessions, you may be lead to believe that this is part of it.
Unfortunately, I was one of those people who lacked awareness and who simply wanted the pain to stop and so I gave my power and my trust to a healer who abused me. I witness countless clients who have been in similar situations like I have been and it sickens me to my core. There are millions of healers out there, myself included, that are not held to any standard of care other than our own personal integrity, committment, intention and karma. There are too many modalities in existence to create any type of umbrella legislature to abide by. That’s why its important to do your due diligence in research before seeking treatment.
The wounds that can be caused by ill intent are not easily healed. Learn from my experience and the countless experiences of others who have been wounded. Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it is.